When our own self doubt and lack of self acceptance is the primary limiting belief in our lives, it holds us back from stepping into our powerful True Selves. We "play small" and are reluctant to be visible, to step up or speak up, or to extend ourselves into unknown territory where we feel there's just that one more thing I need to make myself "better" before I'm "ready".
When this is the dominating energy in our lives, it is important to discover where it has come from so that this feeling of inadequacy can be healed and strengthened. What childhood event or events caused you to feel like you were not enough? Did you live with criticism? Guilt? Shame? Lack? Neglect? Abuse? What are the thoughts you have that repeat and re-enforce this belief?
If we are to live into our Fullest Expression of our Selves, we need to heal this wound and fill the space with self love and acceptance. Can you see yourself as the Queen or King that you are?
There are several techniques to help you to do this, I have provided a list of resources below. This is a profound but critically important un-learning. Practice until your cup of self-love is overflowing!
Self Doubt Elimination Exercises:
Tell yourself I LOVE YOU in the mirror each morning. Explain to your reflection all the reasons why you are beautiful and amazing. Be sincere and look yourself in the eye. Tell your reflection I LOVE YOU in each mirror you encounter throughout the day.
Make two columns on a piece of paper. In the first column, write out a list of all the things you tell yourself because you believe you are not enough, right now, as you are. In the column across from this list, write the opposite statement in the positive. For example, "I don't want to go to that wine and painting event with Sally because I don't know how to paint and my pictures would probably be awful." Turns into "I wonder if I have a talent for painting that I didn't know about? Wouldn't it be fun to have some wine and get creative?" When you catch yourself having one of the self doubt thoughts, acknowledge you are doing it and think of three affirming things you could tell yourself instead.
Visualize yourself as a Queen or King. Find or draw a picture of one and put your face in it. What are the character attributes this person would have that you would admire? Write them down on the picture. Visualize how this character would think and act, what would they do? Take a day and play the part!
Write out several positive present tense affirmations. Read them out loud every morning. Post them up where you can see them and read them often throughout the day.
Be sure to notice how your Way of Being in the world shifts when you practice ENOUGHNESS! Notice how your practice spills into other areas of your life such as money and relationships. Celebrate your more empowered Self! I CELEBRATE YOU!